What is Trauma?
Trauma happens when you experience something scary that feels too big to handle. Violence—whether it happens to you directly or you see it happen to someone else—can be a major cause of trauma. You might feel like your world has changed, and it can be hard to know what to do next.
Signs That You May Be Struggling
If you’ve been exposed to violence or lost someone close to you, you might be feeling things you don’t understand or know how to deal with, like…
- Feeling anxious or scared all the time
- Having trouble sleeping
- Nightmares that wake you up feeling shaken
- Flashbacks—when memories of the event pop up in your head…like you’re reliving it
- Avoiding places or people that remind you of what happened
- Feeling angry, sad, or numb
- Struggling with school, family, or friends because of how you feel inside
- Isolating or crying more than usual
- Feeling lost in grief after losing someone close to you
- Feeling alone or like no one understands what you’re going through
Other Indicators
Signs that someone may be struggling with trauma can vary depending on the individual and the type of trauma they’ve experienced (e.g., physical, emotional, sexual, or psychological trauma), but there are several common indicators to watch for. Here are some key signs by category/type:
Hypervigilance: A heightened state of alertness or constant “on edge” feeling. This may include being easily startled, overreacting to loud noises, or constantly scanning the environment for danger.
Avoidance: A tendency to avoid reminders or situations that bring up memories of the traumatic event. This can include avoiding certain places, people, or even thoughts that trigger distress.
Intrusive Thoughts or Flashbacks: Vivid memories, flashbacks, or distressing thoughts about the trauma. In some cases, the person may feel like they’re reliving the trauma in the present moment.
Mood Swings or Emotional Numbness: Rapid shifts in mood, ranging from sadness to irritability or anger.
Difficulty Concentrating: A reduced ability to focus, which can affect work, school, or daily tasks. This can be linked to feelings of anxiety, dissociation, or the constant intrusion of traumatic memories.
Engaging in Risky or Reckless Behavior: Some people may engage in behaviors that seem out of character, such as driving recklessly, participating in risky activities, or making impulsive decisions to cope with pain.
Somatic (Sleep) Symptoms: Unexplained aches and pains, headaches, digestive issues, or muscle tension. Some individuals carry trauma in their body, which can manifest as chronic pain or tension.
Fatigue: Chronic exhaustion, even if they haven’t been physically active. Trauma can drain a person’s energy due to the emotional and psychological toll it takes.
Changes in Appetite: Significant changes in eating habits, either eating too much or too little, as a way to cope with distress.
Physical Signs of Stress: High blood pressure, heart palpitations, or other physical manifestations of prolonged stress.
Changes in Sleep Patterns: Difficulty sleeping, nightmares, or insomnia. On the other hand, some might sleep excessively to avoid confronting their emotions.
Substance Abuse or Self-Destructive Behaviors: Turning to alcohol, drugs, or other harmful coping mechanisms as a way to numb emotional pain or avoid intrusive thoughts. they once enjoyed. This can stem from feelings of alienation, shame, or fear of being judged.
Anger or Irritability: Increased irritability, angry outbursts, or difficulty controlling emotions. Trauma can often lead to feelings of frustration and a sense of powerlessness.
Withdrawal: Social withdrawal or distancing from loved ones and activities where interacting with others is required.
Regression: Reverting to behaviors from an earlier age, such as bed-wetting, thumb-sucking, or clinging to a parent.
Separation Anxiety: Fear of being away from caregivers or loved ones, even in situations where they might have previously felt safe.
Acting Out or Aggression: Acting out behaviors, aggression, or trouble with authority. Children may also engage in reenacting traumatic events through play.
Difficulty in School or Social Situations: Decreased performance in school or difficulty interacting with peers, which may stem from the emotional and cognitive impact of trauma.
WHAT’S NEXT
If this sounds like what you’re feeling, it’s okay to ask for help. Talking to a trained professional can make a huge difference. Call us, even if you just need someone to talk to. We’re here to help.
WHAT CAN YOU EXPECT WHEN YOU CALL?
Someone to listen. You don’t have to explain everything all at once. We’re here to listen when you’re ready to talk.
A safe space. No judgement, just support. Want to meet in-person? We’ll provide transportation.
Help with coping. We’ll help you with practical ways to manage tough emotions.
Ongoing support. We’ll connect you with our Licensed Professional Counselor for long-term counseling support, and other victims services like emergency shelter, transportation for medical/police assistance, financial support if you’re a victim of crime, and more.
Learn more about our services and service partners here. To reach us, call our office at 609.695.3739 and ask for Rosselyn, Dan, or Mr. Rob.


