How to Report Child Abuse

In New Jersey, anyone with reasonable cause to believe a child is being abused has an obligation to call the Child Abuse Hotline at 1-877-NJ ABUSE (1-877-652-2873). The Hotline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You do not need proof to report actual or suspected child abuse. If the child is in immediate danger, call 911 and 1-877-NJ ABUSE.

Whenever possible, a caller should provide all of the following information:

*Any person who, in good faith, makes a report of child abuse or neglect, or testifies in a child abuse hearing, is immune from criminal or civil liability. All allegations of abuse and neglect are promptly investigated.

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DOWNLOADABLE RESOURCES AND TOOLKITS

Overview

Below is a trauma-informed, evidence-informed Safety Audit Checklist for Youth Programs.  It’s structured so programs can use it for:

  • Annual safety reviews

  • Board reporting

  • Insurance documentation

  • Pre-licensing preparation

  • Continuous quality improvement

Assessment Areas

This tool assess functioning and readiness in the following (10) core areas:

1️⃣ Leadership & Policy Foundations

2️⃣ Hiring & Screening Practices

3️⃣ Supervision & Environment Safety

4️⃣ Training & Staff Development

5️⃣ Reporting & Response Protocol

6️⃣ Digital & Online Safety

7️⃣ Transportation Safety (If Applicable)

8️⃣ Youth Empowerment & Prevention Education

9️⃣ Family Engagement & Transparency

🔟 Organizational Culture & Accountability

How to Use This Checklist

Recommended Review Frequency: Annually (minimum)
Participants: Program director, board member, frontline staff representative
Rating Scale:

  • 3 = In Place

  • 2 = Partially in Place

  • 1 = Needs Review/Update 

  • 0 = Not in Place

Instructions:

  1. Open the document in Excel (desktop).
  2. Place the appropriate rating score for each item/row (3, 2, 1, or 0).
  3. Tab out of the field after selecting (this triggers recalculation).
  4. For items that do not apply to your program/organization, put “Y” in the N/A column. (Leave the numerical score field blank.)
  5. View the Auto-Scoring Summary section for:
    • Total Score

    • *Percentage (based on max possible score excluding N/A items)

    • Safety Rating (Green/Yellow/Red) 
      🟢 Strong
      🟡 Needs Strengthening
      🔴 Immediate Attention Needed

Download: Youth_Program_Safety_Audit_Form

Purpose of This Form

Below is the Youth Program Incident Report Form. It is used to document any incident involving a child, youth, staff member, volunteer, or visitor that affects safety, wellbeing, or program operations.

This form helps your organization:

  • Maintain accurate and objective documentation
  • Support mandated reporting obligations
  • Ensure timely communication and follow-up
  • Protect children, staff, and the organization
  • Identify patterns or systemic safety concerns
  • Demonstrate compliance with licensing and insurance requirements

This document is confidential and must be stored securely according to organizational policy.


When to Complete This Form

Complete this form immediately following any incident involving Injury or medical events, Behavioral escalation or aggression, Safety hazards, Policy violations, Suspected abuse or neglect, Boundary concerns, Threats or crisis situations, Law enforcement involvement, Any event requiring supervisor notification. When in doubt, document it.


Trauma-Informed Documentation Principles

When completing this form:

✔ Be factual and objective
✔ Describe what was observed (not assumptions)
✔ Use direct quotes when relevant
✔ Avoid labeling language
✔ Record actions taken and by whom
✔ Document timeline clearly

Do not include speculation, personal opinions, or diagnoses.


Important Reminders

  • This form does not replace mandated reporting.
  • Complete this form even if a report is made externally.
  • Document facts—not conclusions.
  • When unsure, consult your supervisor or safety lead.

Download: Youth_Program_Incident_Report_Form

Download: Section-by-Section Instructions for completing the Youth Program Incident Report Form

 
 

Purpose of This Form

The Youth Program Incident Log Tracker.  It is used to document incident reports involving a child, youth, staff member, volunteer, or visitor that affects safety, wellbeing, or program operations.

This form helps your organization:

  • Maintain accurate and objective documentation
  • Support mandated reporting obligations
  • Ensure timely communication and follow-up
  • Protect children, staff, and the organization
  • Identify patterns or systemic safety concerns
  • Demonstrate compliance with licensing and insurance requirements

This document is confidential and must be stored securely according to organizational policy.


What This Tracker Includes

Incident Log Sheet

  • Structured columns for:

    • Incident ID
    • Date / Time
    • Site / Program Type
    • Youth Name / Age
    • Incident Type (dropdown)
    • Severity Level (Low / Moderate / High / Critical)
    • Mandated Report (Y/N)
    • Parent Notified (Y/N)
    • Status (Open / Under Review / Closed)
    • Follow-Up Required (Y/N)
  • Pre-built dropdown menus for consistent data entry
  • Formatted for up to 500 incidents (expandable)

Download: Incident Log Tracker

Overview for Youth-Serving Organizations

The Comprehensive Trauma-Informed Practices Guide is an evidence-informed resource designed to help youth-serving organizations create safer, more responsive, and developmentally supportive environments for children and adolescents.

Grounded in research from SAMHSA, the CDC, and landmark Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) research, this guide provides both foundational understanding and practical implementation strategies for embedding trauma-informed principles into daily practice.

 

The Comprehensive Guide is in development. In the meantime, the abridged Sample Guide is available here: Sample_Trauma_Informed_Practices_Guide

 

Coming Soon for…

🛡 Safety & Prevention Guides

  • Family Online Safety Toolkit

  • “Talking to Kids About Safe Touch & Body Boundaries”

  • Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Conversation Starters

  • Internet & Social Media Supervision Checklist

  • “How to Respond if a Child Discloses Abuse” (parent version)

💬 Tough Conversations Series

  • Talking to Children About Violence in the News

  • Talking to Kids After a Community Crisis

  • Talking to Children About Grief & Loss

  • Talking to Kids About Consent (age-based versions)

🤝 Organizational Policy & Practice Resources

  • Sample Child Protection Policy Template

  • Supervision & Two-Adult Rule Guidelines

  • Safe Hiring & Screening Checklist

  • Code of Conduct Template

  • Incident Response Flowchart

  • Safety Audit Checklist for Youth Programs


🧩 Implementation & Capacity Building

  • “Becoming a Trauma-Informed Organization” Starter Guide

  • Staff Training Planning Worksheet

  • Parent Engagement Toolkit

  • Community Presentation Slide Deck (branded, editable)

  • FAQ Sheet for Boards & Leadership

Youth-Focused Resources (Age-Appropriate)

  • “My Body Safety Rules” printable booklet (ages 4–8)

  • Teen Digital Safety Workbook

  • “How to Ask for Help” worksheet

  • Coping Skills Journal Pages

  • Trusted Adult Mapping Activity

Infographics and Visuals

  • One-page infographics (downloadable & printable)

  • Refrigerator-ready safety tip sheets

  • Visual “5 Steps to Responding to a Disclosure”

  • Printable child-friendly body safety rules poster

  • Social media share graphics

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PARENTS & CAREGIVERS

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Parents & Caregivers

 

We recognize that parenting is the toughest job there is. Many challenges come with raising children in today’s world. We’ve compiled information and resources to help make the job a little easier for parents and caregivers.

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What You Should Know About Youth Gang Involvement

There is no single, accepted nationwide definition of youth gangs. It has been firmly established that the characteristics and behaviors of gangs are exceptionally varied within and across geographical areas (Egley, Howell, and Major, 2006; Klein, 2002; Weisel, 2002) and that a community’s gang problem—however affected from other areas—is primarily and inherently homegrown. Thus, state and local jurisdictions tend to develop their own definitions.

The terms “youth gang” and “street gang” are often used interchangeably, but use of the latter label can result in the confusion of youth gangs with adult criminal organizations. A youth gang is commonly thought of as a self-formed association of peers having the following characteristics: three or more members, generally ages 12 to 24; a name and some sense of identity, generally indicated by such symbols as style of clothing, graffiti, and hand signs; some degree of permanence and organization; and an elevated level of involvement in delinquent or criminal activity.

In detailing the transition from typical adolescent groupings to established youth gangs, Moore (1998) outlines four community conditions that often precede this transition. First, conventional socializing agents, such as families and schools, are largely ineffective and alienating. Under these conditions, conventional adult supervision is largely absent.

Second, the adolescents must have a great deal of free time that is not consumed by other prosocial roles. Third, for the gang to become established—if not fully institutionalized across generations—members must have limited access to appealing conventional career lines, that is, good adult jobs. Finally, the young people must have a place to congregate—usually a well-defined neighborhood.

Youth gang activity tends to follow a cyclical pattern with upswings followed by downturns (Klein, 1995a), and these occur at multiple levels—within regions, cities, and neighborhoods (Egley et al., 2004). To illustrate, the largest cities reported persistent gang problems from 1996 to 2002 in the NYGS; in contrast, smaller cities and suburban and rural counties tended to report variable gang problems during this period (Egley et al., 2004; see also, Egley, 2002).

Some cities may experience a large and sudden flare-up in gang violence in a given year. Such upswings are typically local in nature and not indicative of a nationwide trend (Tita and Abrahamse, 2004). Further complicating matters, local officials may be reluctant to acknowledge their gang problem until it publicly surfaces in a tragic event, or they may declare they have successfully dealt with it, only to see it surface again.

The expanded presence of gangs is often blamed on the relocation of members from one city to another, typically referred to as “gang migration.” However, the sudden appearance of Rollin’ 60s Crips graffiti in a public park in a rural community, for example, does not necessarily mean that the Los Angeles gang has set up a chapter in the community (Starbuck, Howell, and Lindquist, 2001). Gang names are frequently copied, adopted, or passed on. In most instances, there is little, if any, real connection between local groups with the same name other than the name itself.

Although gang migration is stereotypically attributed to illegal activities such as drug franchising, research has consistently demonstrated that the expansion of criminal enterprises is not the principal driving force behind migration (Maxson, 1998). The most common reasons for migration are social considerations affecting individual gang members, including family relocation to improve the quality of life or to be near relatives and friends.

Moreover, in the 2004 NYGS, a majority (60 percent) of respondents reported no or few (less than 25 percent of documented gang members) such migrants. Agencies that experienced the highest levels of gang-member migration were significantly more likely to report migration for social reasons (Egley and Ritz, 2006).

While many factors have been suggested, three of the most widely discussed are (1) communitywide social and economic conditions, including such interrelated factors as deindustrialization, the loss of employment opportunities, and poverty, racism, and the growth of the urban underclass; (2) diffusion of the gang culture into the general population, particularly through the popular media; and (3) involvement in the crack cocaine market (further discussed below) (Klein, 2002).

It is important to keep in mind that most youth gangs are homegrown and that the factors which contribute to the emergence of gang activity in a community are not necessarily the same as those which contribute to its persistence (Klein, 1995b).

The “gang” characterization is sometimes broadly extended to mean terrorist gang, prison gang, or criminal gang as in organized crime, and “in each of these instances, the word ‘gang’ implies a level of structure and organization for criminal conspiracy that is simply beyond the capacity of most street gangs” (Klein, 2004: 57). To remain in business, organized crime groups such as drug cartels must have strong leadership, codes of loyalty, severe sanctions for failure to abide by these codes, and a level of entrepreneurial expertise that enables them to accumulate and invest proceeds from drug sales (p. 58). In contrast, “most street gangs are only loosely structured, with transient leadership and membership, easily transcended codes of loyalty, and informal rather than formal roles for the members” (p. 59). Very few youth gangs meet the essential criteria for classification as “organized crime” (see also Decker, Bynum, and Weisel, 1998; Weisel, 2002).

Because the growth in youth gang violence in the period from the mid-1980s to the early 1990s coincided with the crack cocaine epidemic, these two developments were generally perceived to be interrelated (Klein, 1995b). However, youth gangs rarely manage or control drug distribution systems at the organizational level; rather, their involvement is mainly in street-level distribution (Howell and Decker, 1999). Most drug distribution systems are managed by adult drug cartels or syndicates, traditional narcotic operatives, and other adult criminal organizations (Howell, 2003). However, youth gangs can be integrally involved and susceptible to involvement in existing, adult-based distribution systems without actually evidencing the characteristics of a drug-dealing gang (Valdez and Sifaneck, 2004).

There is no question that in particular communities in certain cities, youth gangs are very active in drug trafficking. However, the common stereotypes of the relationships between youth gangs, drug trafficking, and violence are often sensationalized (Klein, 1995b; Moore, 1993). While gang participation, drug trafficking, and violence tend to occur together, they are not a single, comprehensive problem (Braga, 2004). Where drug-related violence occurs, it mainly stems from drug use and dealing by individual gang members and from gang member involvement in adult criminal drug distribution networks more than from drug-trafficking activities of the youth gang as an organized entity.

Some of the gangs that have emerged in the past decade are noticeably different from those that emerged before the mid-1980s (Howell, Egley, and Gleason, 2002; Howell, Moore, and Egley, 2002). These gangs are commonly described as having a “hybrid gang culture,” meaning they do not follow the same rules or methods of operation, making documentation and categorization difficult (Starbuck et al., 2001). They may have several of the following characteristics: a mixture of racial/ethnic groups, a mixture of symbols and graffiti associated with different gangs, wearing colors traditionally associated with a rival gang, less concern over turf or territory, and members who sometimes switch from one gang to another.

Members of contemporary gangs often “cut and paste” bits of Hollywood images and big-city gang lore into their local versions of gangs. Small town and rural gangs also differ from urban gangs in other important respects (Howell, Egley, and Gleason, 2002), hence urban models of gang development and response do not necessarily apply in rural areas (Weisheit and Wells, 2004).

Youth gang membership among girls is much more common (Moore and Hagedorn, 2001) and is documented more widely by law enforcement (Egley et al., 2006) than in the past. During early adolescence, roughly one-third of all youth gang members are female (Esbensen and Winfree, 1998; Gottfredson and Gottfredson, 2001), but studies show that females leave the gang at an earlier age than males (Gottfredson and Gottfredson, 2001; Thornberry, Krohn, Lizotte, et al., 2003).

Gender-mixed gangs are also more commonly reported now than in the past. In 2000, 42 percent of all gang-problem jurisdictions in the NYGS reported that a majority of their gangs had female members (Egley et al., 2006). Furthermore, emerging research has also documented that the gender composition of the gang is importantly associated with gang delinquency rates. In one study, females in all- or majority-female gangs exhibited the lowest delinquency rates, and males and females in majority-male gangs exhibited the highest delinquency rates (including higher rates than males in all-male gangs) (Peterson, Miller, and Esbensen, 2001).

Studies of large urban samples show that gang members are responsible for a large proportion of all violent offenses committed during the adolescent years. Rochester gang members (30 percent of the sample) self-reported committing 68 percent of all adolescent violent offenses; in Seattle, gang members (15 percent of the sample) self-reported committing 85 percent of adolescent robberies; and in Denver, gang members (14 percent of the sample) self-reported committing 79 percent of all serious violent adolescent offenses (Thornberry, 1998; Thornberry et al., 2004).

Gang membership is a strong predictor of individual violence in adolescence and, in one study, has been observed to be an even more powerful predictor than two of the most highly regarded factors (i.e., delinquent peer association and prior violence) (Thornberry, 1998; see also Battin-Pearson et al., 1998).

Survey research has consistently demonstrated that youth are significantly more criminally active during periods of active gang membership, particularly in serious and violent offenses, and that prolonged periods of gang involvement have a way of increasing the “criminal embeddedness” of members (Thornberry et al., 2003; Thornberry et al., 2004). “Associates” of gang members also have elevated offense rates (Curry, Decker, and Egley, 2002).

Risk factors that predispose many youths to gang membership are also linked to a variety of adolescent problem behaviors, including serious violence and delinquency. The major risk factor domains are individual characteristics, family conditions, school experiences and performance, peer group influences, and the community context.

Risk factors predictive of gang membership include prior and/or early involvement in delinquency, especially violence and alcohol/drug use; poor family management and problematic parent-child relations; low school attachment and achievement and negative labeling by teachers; association with aggressive peers and peers who engage in delinquency; and neighborhoods in which large numbers of youth are in trouble and in which drugs and firearms are readily available (Howell and Egley, 2005; see also Esbensen, 2000; Hill, Lui, and Hawkins, 2001; Thornberry, 1998; Wyrick and Howell, 2004). The accumulation of risk factors greatly increases the likelihood of gang involvement, just as it does for other problem behaviors.

The presence of risk factors in multiple risk-factor domains appears to increase the likelihood of gang involvement even more (Thornberry et al., 2003). A complete enumeration of risk factors for juvenile delinquency and gang involvement and data indicators can be accessed at the National Youth Gang Center Web site (http://www.iir.com/nygc/tool/).

Prolonged gang involvement is likely to take a heavy toll on youths’ social development and life-course experiences. The gang acts as “a powerful social network” in constraining the behavior of members, limiting access to pro social networks and cutting individuals off from conventional pursuits (Thornberry et al., 2003; Thornberry et al., 2004). These effects of the gang tend to produce precocious, off-time, and unsuccessful transitions that bring disorder to the life course in a cascading series of difficulties, including school dropout, early parenthood, and unstable employment. For some gang members, the end result of this foreclosure of future opportunities is continued involvement in criminal activity throughout adolescence and into adulthood.

Despite the apparent popular belief among youth that joining a gang will afford protection, in reality the opposite is true. Youth are far more likely to be violently victimized while in a gang than when they are not (Peterson et al., 2004). This relationship holds irrespective of the primary reason for joining a gang (i.e., whether for protection or not). Furthermore, in two studies, involvement in gang fights more than doubled or tripled the odds of serious injury (Loeber, Kalb, and Huizinga, 2001).

The notion that youth are primarily, if not exclusively, actively recruited into the gang by older members is often circulated in the general public. However, systematic research continuously fails to support this view. Among the various reasons youth give for joining a gang, the following are the two most commonly observed: (1) social reasons—youth join to be around friends and family members (especially siblings or cousins) already part of the gang and (2) protection—youth join for the presumed safety they believe the gang can afford (Decker and Van Winkle, 1996; Peterson et al., 2004; Thornberry et al., 2003). Also reported by youth, albeit far less frequently, are more instrumental reasons for joining a gang, such as drug selling or making money. Moreover, few youth, irrespective of race/ethnicity, report they have been forced or coerced to join the gang (Freng and Winfree, 2004; Peterson et al., 2004). In other studies, many adolescents reported they could refuse to join a gang without reprisal (Decker and Kempf-Leonard, 1991; Fleisher, 1995, 1998).

Two other issues that shed light on youths’ participation in gangs are duration patterns of gang membership and the ways in which youth accomplish leaving the gang. Longitudinal research that follows the same subjects regularly over a long period of time provides the best measure of membership duration patterns.

Only a few studies have examined gang membership longitudinally, but each of these has provided uniformly consistent evidence that youth gang membership patterns are very dynamic—most youth reported being in the gang for one year or less (Hill et al., 2001; Peterson et al., 2004; Thornberry et al., 2003; Thornberry et al., 2004). These longitudinal studies were conducted primarily in areas with emerging gang problems, and thus it is unknown how these compelling findings compare to chronic or long-standing gang-problem areas, which are more likely to contain multigenerational and/or more hierarchically structured gangs. However, field studies in Chicago (Howoritz, 1983) and Los Angeles (Moore, 1991), where these types of gangs are more likely to exist—some of which are intergenerational—provide some evidence of more long-term patterns of gang membership among youth.

In regards to the second issue, research has documented that former gang members, especially marginal and short-term ones, typically left the gang without complication or facing any serious consequences (Decker and Lauritsen, 2002; Decker and Van Winkle, 1996). However, for the more long-term and/or core members, the process of leaving the gang is likely to be more gradual and met with greater difficulty—particularly for youths in more highly organized gangs that have a firmer foothold in a community or neighborhood.

Other situational factors that make leaving the gang more difficult include greater dependence on or personal status in the group, continuing perceptions by others (e.g., rivals) that the person is a bona fide member of the gang, and the lack of viable lifestyle alternatives (that is, conventional pursuits such as employment opportunities). Further, more hierarchically structured gangs may threaten or enact certain sanctions for those wishing to leave the gang.

What You Should Know About Teen Dating Violence

As a parent, nothing is more heartbreaking than seeing your child in pain or being mistreated. If your teen is in an abusive relationship, you may feel angry, helpless, or unsure where to turn. 

Here are important steps you can take as a parent to safeguard your child and give them the legal protection, resources, and knowledge they need: 

Link: How To Legally Protect Your Child From An Abusive Teen Relationship – Teen Dating Violence Awareness

Teen dating violence can cause deep physical and emotional harm. As a parent, guardian, or concerned family member, you might wonder if there are legal options available to address the injuries your child has suffered.

While each situation is unique, it’s often possible to hold the responsible individual—and sometimes others—accountable in a civil lawsuit with help from a personal injury lawyer.

Read on: Can You Sue for Injuries From Teen Dating Violence? – Teen Dating Violence Awareness

Dating abuse is a pattern of coercive, intimidating, or manipulative behaviors used to exert power and control over a partner. While we define dating violence as a pattern, that doesn’t mean the first instance of abuse isn’t also dating violence; we simply recognize that dating violence tends to involve a series of abusive behaviors over a course of time.

While these activities present an exciting way to socialize, abusive partners may also use the occasion to take advantage while you’re intoxicated or to get you intoxicated for the purpose of taking advantage of you while you’re unable to give consent. It’s also common for abusive partners to blame their behavior on drugs or alcohol to avoid claiming responsibility for their actions or to obscure the reasons they abuse.

People often assume physical violence when they hear about abuse, but that’s not always the case. Dating abuse is a pattern of behaviors used to gain or maintain power and control over a partner — physical violence is just one example of such behavior.

Read on: Types of abuse

Teen dating violence is something no parent wants to consider. It’s hard enough to accept that your baby is growing up and having what might seem like truly adult experiences. But the thought that puppy love could turn into something as serious and as damaging as dating violence can be heartbreaking. 

The unfortunate truth is that many teenagers do experience violence and abuse from their dating partners. If this happens, your child, who isn’t equipped to navigate something like this in the midst of new, intense, and complicated feelings, needs you more than ever. You’re not just there to help them; you’re a crucial lifeline in preventing and addressing a formative experience that could turn into juvenile crimes fast. 

Read on: Parental Involvement in Preventing Teen Dating Violence – Teen Dating Violence Awareness

Research reveals that up to 19% of teens experience dating violence. Dating violence includes physical and sexual violence, stalking, harassment, and psychological abuse. Unfortunately, many teens do not report dating violence, so the numbers could be higher. A teen may be frightened or ashamed, so they don’t report the abuse. Other teens may not recognize the conduct as dating violence.

Read on: Is a Teen More Likely to Experience Dating Violence in a Romantic Relationship if They’ve Been Exposed to Domestic Violence at Home? – Teen Dating Violence Awareness

Everyone deserves to be in a safe and healthy relationship. Do you know if your relationship is healthy? Answer yes or no to the following questions to find out.

Take the Quiz: Is your relationship healthy?

 

 

All relationships exist on a spectrum from healthy to abusive, with unhealthy relationships somewhere in the middle. The interactive Relationship Spectrum will help you identify different scenarios as healthy, unhealthy, or abusive and find out where your relationship falls.

If you recognize any of the warning signs, it may be an indication that the relationship is abusive. Create a safety plan or text, call, or chat to connect with an advocate to confidentially discuss your situation and explore available options.

Download the Relationship Spectrum: 2020-LIR-Relationship-Spectrum-onepager.pdf

Being a parent of someone in an abusive dating relationship makes a difficult situation even harder. Knowing or even suspecting that your child is being harmed can be both frightening and frustrating.

As a parent, you’re a crucial part of helping them develop healthy relationships and providing the support necessary to build their confidence in order to leave the bad ones. You’re also probably afraid for their safety and accustomed to intervening right away when you see them get hurt.

Maintaining mutual trust depends on you demonstrating to your children that you’re trustworthy — that means respecting their decision-making even when you disagree with them. You can’t force them to trust you, and it’s important to realize that you can’t live their lives, including decisions about their relationships.

Read on: Supporting your child during dating abuse

Take the Quiz: Spotting Signs of Abuse in Teen Relationships

EDUCATORS AND ADMINISTRATORS

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Educators and School & Program Administrators

 

PEI Kids provides training on child assault, physical and sexual abuse, bullying, and cyber safety to teachers, school and program administrators. We work with over 60 public, private and charter schools throughout Mercer County to help keep our children safe.

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RESEARCH and resources for educators